Dating a woman going through a divorce
Does he have bouts of anger that might indicate his ex-wife was afraid of him?Is he timid and easily swayed and you can see that a lack of a spine is what allowed a manipulative wife to get everything she could from him before she fled?
You might actually become a mini-expert on your state's legal nuances involving separation and community property. This is often a turnoff, but you can make this time matter for you in addition to just being a shoulder to cry on.
Of course, in his defense, she may have put on a good act and left him as a devious surprise to maximize his pain and to give her a stronger position in the divorce proceedings.
Find out what you can about the timeline of how and why it ended. In his discussions of his divorce, you should be able to see her side of the story at least a little and observe the habits of his that angered her.
Here is a checklist: You must be definite that he is actually getting a divorce and has not just taken a few weeks off from his marriage to "find himself" or "get space." Are papers being filed or served? Any reports of progress are a green light that he is headed in the right direction as a possible partner for you.
Any stalling, or worse, attempts at reconciliation are red lights for you to put a stop to seeing him until he is officially, legally single. If so, that tells you that he is willing to work on disagreements as well as letting you know that the divorce was not a rash decision.Can you mentally compare how he is now with how you perceive him to have been just a few months or years ago when the marriage crumbled?